After three years of living in Indonesia, I have been lucky to learn quite a bit of Bahasa Indonesia. I in no way consider myself fluent, but I function fairly well, and I am incredibly thankful for that. While learning this dynamic and wonderful language, I have come across a few phrases that I have really come to love. Some are funny, some are beautiful. But I love them all, and wanted to share them here.
Tidak apa apa. This literally translates to “No what what,” and using the English version is guaranteed to make a classroom of English-learners giggle uncontrollably. It means “no problem,” or “it’s okay,” and Indonesians say it all the time. Yes, sometimes this relaxed nature can get on my nerves, and I find myself ranting in my head: “That is not something you can just tidak apa apa!” But at the end of the day I admire it, and feel that people in my own country could learn something from this. And I love the various ways different regions shorten the phrase: “Tak pa pa,” “Ga pa pa,” and even “gpp” in sms.
Hati-Hati. This phrase means “Be careful.” It can be used on its own, like when you might warn a small child not to touch a stove. But it can also be used as part of the larger phrase “Hati-hati di jalan,” or “Be careful on the road,” which is said almost every time you part ways with someone. What I love about this phrase is that hati is also the word for the metaphorical heart. That this phrase so directly connects the idea of parting ways with someone to the heart is still so touching to me, even after three years of hearing it almost every day.
Mandi bebek. Mandi is the Indonesian word for “shower” or “bathe,” and in a country where cleanliness is of the upmost importance and people will probably be shocked if you tell them that you shower only once a day, this is an important word to know. Mandi bebek means “duck shower” and this is a short shower, in which you just rinse your body and don’t wash your hair or use soap. Any equivalents I know of in English are either far cruder or far less adorable, and as the queen of mandi bebek (a quick rinse-off at the end of a hot day of teaching is so key to decent mental health), I was ecstatic when I learned this word existed.
Anda. This is the formal Indonesian word for you. It is always capitalized, while no other pronoun is. As a native speaker of English, where the capitalized pronoun is “I,” the word for the self, I am fascinated by this emphasis on the other, and the diminishing of the self. There is a selflessness in Indonesian culture that is beautiful, and it seems it comes out even in the language.
Malu-malu kucing. This literally translates to “shy-shy cat,” and it is usually used to good-naturedly tease someone who is shy, or malu-malu. Teachers use it all the time to coax students who are too embarrassed by their English to speak up in class: “Jangan malu-malu kucing!” (“Don’t be shy-sky cat!”). And it often works. The very fact that the phrase is amusing often helps nervous students to relax and smile at least a little, and I wish there was a phrase in English that could do the same.
Belum and Sudah. Belum means “not yet,” and sudah means, “already.” While there are words for yes and no in Indonesian, iya and tidak, to respond to many questions it is far more common to use the words belum and sudah, and I have always found this particularly fascinating when it comes to belum. “Have you eaten?” “Belum.” “Have you studied for a graduate degree?” “Belum.” Have you been to Lombok?” “Belum.” There is the assumption that just because you haven’t done something yet, doesn’t mean you never will. And so, you don’t answer with a firm no, but merely a “not yet.” There is an inherent optimism and recognition of opportunity in this phrasing that I find really wonderful, and it has made me re-think how I think about the future.
Mandi hujan. This means, “rain shower,” and is the word used for playing in the rain, and many Indonesians use it even if the mandi hujan was unintentional. If I come home soaked to the bone, because I forgot my umbrella, I joke with the security in front of the building that I was mandi hujan. I learned this phrase from one of my students, who loved mandi hujan so much that he simply could not stay still if the rain started to fall. Almost every time we had class together, because his English class fell at a time when the rains would come like clockwork, the way they do in Indonesia, he would start to dance in his seat and look longingly out the windows. I would help him to focus as best as I could, and if he could finish his tasks for that day, and could show me that he understood his homework, he would look up at me and say, “Mandi hujan, miss?” and I would let him leave class a few minutes early, and would see him later on, walking home, soaking wet and deliriously happy. Rain has always brought me joy, and cloudy days have never been dreary for me. My student’s shared love of rain has made this one of my favorite Indonesian phrases.
Bapak, Ibu, Kakak, and Adik. The simplest translations for these words are: Bapak as “father,” Ibu as “mother,” kakak as “older sibling,” and adik as “younger sibling.” These are used to talk about actual family members—my brother, for example, is my adik laki-laki—but it is also used as a form of address in many parts of Indonesia. Older women are Ibu, or Bu, and older men are Bapak, or Pak. Anyone similar in age or only slightly older is kakak, or kak and younger folks are adik, or dik. You use these words even when you meet someone for the first time, and I am fascinated by this immediate familiarity. Like Anda, this seems to echo something in the larger culture that I have observed: in such a communal society, neighbors and even strangers are like family.
This is in no way an exhaustive list of the Indonesian words and phrases I have come to love, and I am sure that I will learn more wonderful Indonesian even during the last month I have left. But I hope that you all enjoyed this list!
 Regarding physical body parts, jatung is “heart,” and hati is “liver.” This means than an alternative translation for hati-hati di jalan is “Liver-liver on the road,” something my students in English Club found hilarious, and so we used that phrase exclusively for the year.